Let Them?

Unique Perspectives: Let Them?

By Kim Stevens

LET THEM?

Sure… But What About ME!

We’ve all heard it: Let Them. Mel Robbins put it on the map and it resonates with so many of us. Let them talk. Let them judge. Let them leave. Let them live how they live.

And yes, that’s good stuff. Honestly, it’s better than the alternative of trying to force solutions, fix people, or control the uncontrollable. Especially if you’ve ever struggled with codependency, learning to just let them can feel like a breath of fresh air.

But here’s my take: sometimes let them feels a little too much like quiet resignation. Almost like you’re shrugging your shoulders, giving up, and saying: Well, I guess this is just who they are. Nothing I can do about it. I’ll just let them be.

And while there’s some peace in that, it also leaves me asking: But what about me?

That’s why I love the second part of Mel's book that espouses not just to let them, but to let me!

The recovery slogan Live and Let Live says it all. Because the very first word is the most important: LIVE.

Yes, let others live their lives. But more importantly… let me live mine.

Because here’s what I’ve found: when I’m truly living my life to the fullest, I’m not wrapped up in what anyone else is doing. I’m not obsessing over their choices or behavior. I’m not blaming or pointing fingers. I’m too focused on whether I’m aligned, fulfilled, and actually creating the life I want.

This is where the LET ME part gets exciting:

• Let me stop waiting for permission and finally say yes to myself.

• Let me write the book that’s been living inside me for years.

• Let me open the business I can’t stop thinking about.

• Let me sell the house that no longer fits who I am and buy the one that does.

• Let me leave the relationship that drains me—and create space for one that lights me up.

• Let me hire the coach, take the class, or get the certification that will catapult me forward.

• Let me speak up in the meeting instead of silencing my own voice.

• Let me put my health first and train for the marathon—or simply walk every day like I mean it.

• Let me spend more time by the water, in the woods, or wherever my soul feels alive.

• Let me surround myself with people who inspire me—and lovingly release the ones who don’t.

  
  

Because here’s the truth: when I’m living full out, when I’m giving myself permission to be bold and alive, letting them just happens naturally. I don’t need to force it… it’s a byproduct of being lit up about my own life.

When my life isn’t all I want it to be, that’s when I start worrying about what other people are doing. That’s when I can get caught up in “them.”

So yes, let them is good. But let me? That’s where our power lies and where the magic really happens. Because when we live our lives fully, unapologetically, and joyfully, we find that “letting them” takes care of itself.