Same Dance. Different Relationship.

Unique Perspectives: Same Dance. Different Relationship.

By Kim Stevens

There’s something I’ve been thinking about lately…

We hear a lot about the laws of the universe. Law of attraction… law of resonance… energy… alignment.

And sometimes it can feel like they’re either working for us or against us. But I don’t think that’s it at all. The laws don’t take sides. They don’t bend. They don’t decide. They’re not personal. They just are.

It’s more like the wind.

If you’ve ever been on a sailboat, you know this. You don’t control the wind. You don’t argue with it. You don’t wish it would cooperate because it would make your life easier. You adjust your sails.

And when you do… you move. When you don’t… you sit there… or worse, you find yourself fighting against it. Not fun.

It’s the same with fire. Fire will burn you. Or it will cook your food and keep you warm. It’s not good. It’s not bad. It’s just doing what fire does.

Water is no different. It can drown. Or it can cleanse, nourish, and soothe. Same water. Different experience.

Because nothing is personal. Everything is relational.

And I think that’s what shifts things. At least for me it did. I realized I’m not at the mercy of the laws… but rather in relationship with them. Whether I realize it or not. And often, I did not!

So when something feels like it isn’t working in my life, the question isn’t: “Why is this happening to me?” It’s more like: “Where am I out of alignment or pushing against something that is already working perfectly?”

Because if the laws are consistent… then I can work with them. I can adjust. I can realign. I can choose again. Maybe I can set my sails a little differently or maybe, just maybe, I can even just let go.

I remember taking dancing lessons with my son Maxwell. And I was struggling more than I thought I would. Not because I couldn’t do the steps… but because I wasn’t really letting him lead. I didn’t even realize I was doing it at first. But I was anticipating, adjusting, trying to stay a step ahead instead of just following the movement. And it felt off. A little forced. A little clunky, like I couldn’t quite find the rhythm.

When the instructor said, “Just follow his lead.” It made me smile, but something shifted in me and I let go and I actually let him lead.

It was a powerful moment for me to feel just how simple it was to go from forcing to flowing…

The entire dance changed in that moment. It felt easy. Fluid. Almost effortless. It was beautiful.

Same dance. Different relationship.